Spent the better part of yesterevening at Freshfields Bruchkhaus Derigner mingling and chit chatting with partners and lawyers. Had a nice time, because the hor d'eavues were yummy. And their orange juice was Tropicana and not that mediocre Mr. Juicy stuff.
I also got a nice pen that says FBD on it.
One of the partners told everyone about how he once lent Richard Branson a pound to go on the underground, and he never paid him back.
Thursday, November 13, 2008
Sunday, October 19, 2008
Humour
I'm usually not the person at the party with the best jokes and the sharpest wit, but yesterday in the car on the way to the links I finally made a good(?) joke. Made my dad laugh, so it passed the first test of wit, although his humour can be questionable at times.
While being angry about the Mainland dude at CUHK law that never, ever, ever raises his hand in class but opts to rudely yell out the answer, I questioned whether the dude thinks he's John McCain.
Well, maybe questionable humour runs in the family.
While being angry about the Mainland dude at CUHK law that never, ever, ever raises his hand in class but opts to rudely yell out the answer, I questioned whether the dude thinks he's John McCain.
Well, maybe questionable humour runs in the family.
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
On the Subject of Flirting
I've been considering lately the boundaries of flirtation, and I'd say that it isn't something that can be defined by any one agony aunt. So, I'd forget about them columnists... what are friends for anyhow if we went to them for questions like this?
IMO, the boundaries of flirtation should be fixed by the couple that are in the relationship. Nobody outside of the relationship can be considered fully aware of what is going on within the relationship, whether it's on the rocks, open, closed, polyamorous etc so it's really up to the person with the ball and the chain around her foot to accept or resist flirtation.
Honestly, it's terribly easy to reject flirtatious advances. I wouldn't ever admit the minor quibble that the third (or fourth or fifth or sixth, depending on the structure of the ongoing romantic relationship(s) ) party is somehow culpable for 100% of any infidelity on the tied-up person's part. The only way flirting works is if the other person flirts back. If the other person doesn't flirt back, it doesn't constitute flirting in any solid , concrete sense.
In current metropolitan society, there isn't a completely clear "taken" or "free" sign, even if people are wearing wedding rings. I'd say, forget about the guilt. Men love being flirted with just for the heck of it, so it likely meant nothing. There might be a question of loyalty here... but I'd say that, as long as the flirtation wasn't constant and ongoing, I'd say, forgive yourself, we're all only human, everybody flirts.
It's rather fun, after all.
IMO, the boundaries of flirtation should be fixed by the couple that are in the relationship. Nobody outside of the relationship can be considered fully aware of what is going on within the relationship, whether it's on the rocks, open, closed, polyamorous etc so it's really up to the person with the ball and the chain around her foot to accept or resist flirtation.
Honestly, it's terribly easy to reject flirtatious advances. I wouldn't ever admit the minor quibble that the third (or fourth or fifth or sixth, depending on the structure of the ongoing romantic relationship(s) ) party is somehow culpable for 100% of any infidelity on the tied-up person's part. The only way flirting works is if the other person flirts back. If the other person doesn't flirt back, it doesn't constitute flirting in any solid , concrete sense.
In current metropolitan society, there isn't a completely clear "taken" or "free" sign, even if people are wearing wedding rings. I'd say, forget about the guilt. Men love being flirted with just for the heck of it, so it likely meant nothing. There might be a question of loyalty here... but I'd say that, as long as the flirtation wasn't constant and ongoing, I'd say, forgive yourself, we're all only human, everybody flirts.
It's rather fun, after all.
Monday, October 13, 2008
to guilt or not guilt....
This is probably something I could send to the NYT ethicist or Dear Abby or even that Savage guy at the Voice. But I want a relatively speedy response (assuming that you have the time to read personal blogs anymore).
This weekend, my friend's BF and his two other friends were in town for the Columbus Day holiday. My friend was not in NY and it was up to us (the nygang) to entertain them, or at least show them an okay time. It was also T's bday so of course everyone was busy getting him drunk. Not that it would've mattered that much anyway; the nygang is notoriously unsocial. I, however, took it upon myself to get to know these friends of his who were bored at the dive bar we were in and subsequently left the nygang to go with these visitors to a hip hop club where my shanghai friends were. Needless to say, the night got drunken but nothing happened, yet perhaps a touch and a touch there could have been misconstrued as inappropriate.
What do I do? I've been thinking about it for a few days now. I feel guilty, as if I should be telling someone. I'm sure it was nothing, but why do I feel this way?
My mom always seems kind of shocked and displeased that M and I do things w/o his GF, as if we were having some sort of illicit affair when the reality is that we're sitting on different couches watching movies on his awesome tv.
Perhaps these sort of feelings translated on to my feelings about this weekend's events. What do you think? help me, loklok.
This weekend, my friend's BF and his two other friends were in town for the Columbus Day holiday. My friend was not in NY and it was up to us (the nygang) to entertain them, or at least show them an okay time. It was also T's bday so of course everyone was busy getting him drunk. Not that it would've mattered that much anyway; the nygang is notoriously unsocial. I, however, took it upon myself to get to know these friends of his who were bored at the dive bar we were in and subsequently left the nygang to go with these visitors to a hip hop club where my shanghai friends were. Needless to say, the night got drunken but nothing happened, yet perhaps a touch and a touch there could have been misconstrued as inappropriate.
What do I do? I've been thinking about it for a few days now. I feel guilty, as if I should be telling someone. I'm sure it was nothing, but why do I feel this way?
My mom always seems kind of shocked and displeased that M and I do things w/o his GF, as if we were having some sort of illicit affair when the reality is that we're sitting on different couches watching movies on his awesome tv.
Perhaps these sort of feelings translated on to my feelings about this weekend's events. What do you think? help me, loklok.
Saturday, October 4, 2008
Richard Li
Everyone knows who Richard Li is right? Yeaaaaahhh . Well, this is the cheapo who puts these shiny red labes saying "Compliments of Richard Li" onto every single one of the free copies of Financial Times that are given out at our Law School.
When I told my father about this, he said "you should make a rubber stamp of the text on the label, and stamp all of the toilet paper in the bathrooms exactly like that, so that when people reach to clean the poo of their anus..."
I would love to be a part of this prank. Any takers?
When I told my father about this, he said "you should make a rubber stamp of the text on the label, and stamp all of the toilet paper in the bathrooms exactly like that, so that when people reach to clean the poo of their anus..."
I would love to be a part of this prank. Any takers?
Monday, September 22, 2008
Suckers Up
I've always loved this very famous Gloria Steinem quote:
"The first problem for all of us, men and women, is not to learn, but to unlearn."
which became rather relevant during out legal writing and literacy class today. The prof was teaching us how NOT to write and draft like a lawyer, and how to use plain English. Somebody brought up the point that, there are lawyers who write and draft like lawyers!! That is, in a convoluted and sometimes antiquated fashion! Why are you telling us that what we did is wrong when that is exactly what our bosses have taught us to do?
Obviously, the better lawyer you are, the less likely you would need to use language like that.
But UGH! This horrible guy in our class decided that this was the moment to suck up like a vacuum cleaner to the prof and say "oh, when I was a journalist I saw a lot of bad writing too! And we don't need anymore of that. " Ok, so he said a little more than that, but the tone he used was so obnoxious, so condescending, that I feel as if it's something only a guy could ever get away with.
Conclusion: Hell is other people.
"The first problem for all of us, men and women, is not to learn, but to unlearn."
which became rather relevant during out legal writing and literacy class today. The prof was teaching us how NOT to write and draft like a lawyer, and how to use plain English. Somebody brought up the point that, there are lawyers who write and draft like lawyers!! That is, in a convoluted and sometimes antiquated fashion! Why are you telling us that what we did is wrong when that is exactly what our bosses have taught us to do?
Obviously, the better lawyer you are, the less likely you would need to use language like that.
But UGH! This horrible guy in our class decided that this was the moment to suck up like a vacuum cleaner to the prof and say "oh, when I was a journalist I saw a lot of bad writing too! And we don't need anymore of that. " Ok, so he said a little more than that, but the tone he used was so obnoxious, so condescending, that I feel as if it's something only a guy could ever get away with.
Conclusion: Hell is other people.
Sunday, September 14, 2008
A snippet that transpired in an email to an English friend
"... Starbucks does free refills? Another reason to emigrate. Totally moving to London, just for the free refills. No such thing in Hong Kong. I think it's because people are pretty unscrupulous here when it comes to saving the very last dime instead of saving face. I could totally see people passing on their Starbucks mug to their friend, and that that friend passing it onto the next, and the next... so that they could all drink for free. Although, there is something quite sweetly socialist about the idea, now that I think of it. Starbucks can operate on a smaller profit margin, can't it?"
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